
Bible Verses About Self Control
September 1, 2024
Bible Verses about Unity
September 1, 2024Violence is something the Bible takes seriously. From the violence people inflict on one another to wars, murder, revenge, oppression, and the abuse of power, Scripture gives us a clear picture of the damage sin can cause.
At the same time, the Bible contains accounts of wars and violence, particularly in the Old Testament. That can make this subject confusing. Does the Bible condemn violence? Why are there wars in the Old Testament? Did Jesus change what God says about violence? And what should Christians do when they are hurt or threatened?
The answers require us to look at the whole message of Scripture rather than taking one verse out of context. The Bible shows that violence entered a world damaged by sin, that God takes justice seriously, and that His people are repeatedly called away from personal revenge, hatred, and retaliation.
Quick Answer: What does the Bible say about violence?
The Bible consistently condemns murder, cruelty, oppression, hatred, and personal vengeance. Jesus specifically taught His followers to love their enemies, pray for those who persecute them, and refuse to respond to evil with personal revenge.
“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.”
— Matthew 5:44
The Bible also teaches that God is the ultimate Judge and that human beings should not take personal vengeance into their own hands.
“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”
— Romans 12:19
This doesn’t mean the Bible teaches that evil should simply be ignored or that protecting innocent people is wrong. Scripture also speaks about justice, accountability, and the responsibility of governing authorities to restrain wrongdoing.
Understanding the Bible’s teaching about violence means holding these truths together.
Genesis 4:8–10 — The First Murder
One of the earliest examples of violence in the Bible is Cain murdering his brother Abel.
**“And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him.
And the LORD said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper?
And he said, What hast thou done? the voice of thy brother’s blood crieth unto me from the ground.”**
— Genesis 4:8–10
The story is significant because violence appears very early in the biblical account of humanity’s fall into sin.
Cain’s anger and jealousy did not remain inside his heart. They eventually resulted in murder.
God confronted Cain about what he had done. Abel’s blood mattered to God, and Cain was held accountable for taking his brother’s life.
The Bible does not present murder as an insignificant human disagreement. Life is valuable because human beings are made in God’s image.
Genesis 9:6 — Human Life Is Valuable
After the flood, God spoke about the seriousness of taking human life:
“Whoso sheddeth man’s blood, by man shall his blood be shed: for in the image of God made he man.”
— Genesis 9:6
This verse connects the value of human life directly to the fact that humanity is made in the image of God.
The Bible therefore gives us a foundation for understanding why violence against innocent people is so serious. Human beings have dignity because they bear God’s image.
Exodus 20:13 — You Shall Not Kill
One of the Ten Commandments says:
“Thou shalt not kill.”
— Exodus 20:13
The commandment is commonly understood as prohibiting murder—the unlawful taking of another person’s life.
This is important because the Bible contains other passages dealing with warfare, capital punishment, and legitimate authority. Exodus 20:13 should not be treated as though every possible circumstance involving death is identical to murder.
But it clearly establishes the seriousness of deliberately taking innocent human life.
Proverbs 6:16–19 — God Hates Hands That Shed Innocent Blood
Proverbs gives us a strong description of things God hates:
**“These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:
A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,
A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.”**
— Proverbs 6:16–19
Notice the wording: “hands that shed innocent blood.”
God is not indifferent to violence against innocent people.
He sees injustice, cruelty, what people do to one another when they use power to harm those who cannot protect themselves.
This should shape the way Christians think about violence. We should never become comfortable with cruelty simply because it happens to someone we dislike.
Psalm 11:5 — God Hates Violence
Psalm 11 gives us another direct statement:
“The LORD trieth the righteous: but the wicked and him that loveth violence his soul hateth.”
— Psalm 11:5
The Bible doesn’t merely condemn violent actions. It also addresses the heart that loves violence.
There is a difference between recognizing that violence exists and enjoying cruelty.
God cares about what is happening inside our hearts, not just what other people can see.
Psalm 37:8–9 — Do Not Give Yourself to Anger
**“Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.
For evildoers shall be cut off: but those that wait upon the LORD, they shall inherit the earth.”**
— Psalm 37:8–9
Anger can become dangerous when we allow it to control us.
Being angry about injustice isn’t automatically sinful. Scripture itself contains righteous anger. But there is a difference between being angry about evil and allowing anger to turn into hatred, revenge, or violence.
Psalm 37 reminds us that we don’t have to take God’s place as Judge.
Proverbs 24:29 — Do Not Repay Evil for Evil
“Say not, I will do so to him as he hath done to me: I will render to the man according to his work.”
— Proverbs 24:29
This is a natural temptation when someone hurts us.
They hurt me, so I’ll hurt them, they embarrassed me, so I’ll embarrass them or they treated me badly, so they deserve to experience the same thing.
But Scripture tells us not to live that way.
God does not call us to personally repay every wrong committed against us.
Matthew 5:38–44 — Jesus Teaches Against Retaliation
Jesus directly addressed retaliation in the Sermon on the Mount.
**“Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:
But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.
And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also.
And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.
Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.
Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.”**
— Matthew 5:38–44
Jesus was teaching His followers not to live by personal retaliation.
That is radically different from the instinct to get even.
Christianity does not teach, “If someone hurts you, make sure you hurt them worse.”
Jesus calls His followers to a different way.
Romans 12:17–21 — Overcome Evil With Good
Paul continues this teaching in Romans:
**“Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”**
— Romans 12:17–21
This is one of the clearest passages in the New Testament about responding to people who have done wrong.
Don’t repay evil with evil.
Don’t take personal vengeance.
Do what you can to live peacefully.
And don’t allow someone else’s evil to turn you into an evil person yourself.
That last part is particularly important.
Someone can hurt you terribly, but you still have a choice about what you allow their actions to produce in your own heart.
1 Peter 3:9 — Do Not Repay Insult for Insult
“Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.”
— 1 Peter 3:9
Christians are called to respond differently from the world around them.
That doesn’t mean pretending that wrong didn’t happen. It means refusing to become controlled by the desire to hurt someone back.
Matthew 26:52 — Jesus Tells Peter to Put Away His Sword
When Jesus was arrested, Peter attempted to defend Him with a sword.
Jesus responded:
“Then said Jesus unto him, Put up again thy sword into his place: for all they that take the sword shall perish with the sword.”
— Matthew 26:52
He did not allow Peter to establish His kingdom through violence.
Jesus could have called for heavenly intervention, but He willingly submitted to the Father’s plan and went to the cross.
This moment is especially important when considering Jesus’ teaching about violence and retaliation. His response was not to encourage His disciples to fight their way out of His arrest.
Luke 6:27–28 — Love Your Enemies
Jesus’ teaching goes even further:
**“But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you,
Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.”**
— Luke 6:27–28
Loving an enemy does not mean calling their behaviour good.
It means refusing to let hatred become the defining response in your heart.
You can recognize that someone has done something terribly wrong and still refuse to become consumed by hatred and revenge.
You can also pray for someone without giving them access to you.
Forgiveness, love, reconciliation, and trust are not all the same thing.
Ephesians 4:26–27 — Deal With Anger Carefully
**“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Neither give place to the devil.”**
— Ephesians 4:26–27
This is an important distinction.
The Bible does not say that experiencing anger automatically makes you sinful.
There are things that should make us angry. Injustice, cruelty, abuse, oppression, and wrongdoing are serious matters.
But anger can become sinful when we hold onto it, feed it, or allow it to control our actions.
Uncontrolled anger can become a doorway to bitterness, hatred, revenge, and destructive behaviour.
James 1:19–20 — Human Anger Does Not Produce God’s Righteousness
**“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.”**
— James 1:19–20
This is practical advice for moments when emotions are running high.
Listen before reacting.
Slow down before speaking.
Don’t allow anger to make your decisions for you.
When we are furious, we can say or do things we later regret. James reminds us that uncontrolled human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires.
Genesis 6:11 — The Earth Was Filled With Violence
Before the flood, Genesis describes the condition of humanity:
“The earth also was corrupt before God, and the earth was filled with violence.”
— Genesis 6:11
Violence is repeatedly connected in Scripture with the corruption of humanity.
The problem isn’t simply that humans occasionally lose their temper. Sin affects our hearts, desires, relationships, and treatment of other people.
The violence we see in the world is part of the larger biblical story of humanity’s rebellion against God.
Isaiah 2:4 — A Future Without War
The Bible doesn’t present violence as the final destination for humanity.
Isaiah looked forward to a future in which nations would no longer train themselves for war:
“And he shall judge among the nations, and shall rebuke many people: and they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruninghooks: nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war any more.”
— Isaiah 2:4
This points toward God’s ultimate purposes of justice and peace.
The world we live in is still marked by violence, but Scripture gives Christians hope that violence and war will not have the final word.
Micah 6:8 — Walk Humbly and Do Justly
“He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?”
— Micah 6:8
A biblical response to violence isn’t simply saying, “Don’t hurt people.”
God also calls His people to actively pursue justice, love mercy, and walk humbly with Him.
That means Christians should care about people who are suffering and should not be indifferent when others are being mistreated.
What About Violence in the Old Testament?
This is one of the hardest questions people have about the Bible.
The Old Testament contains accounts of wars, battles, executions, and judgments that can be difficult to read.
It is important not to pretend these passages aren’t there.
The Bible records violence, but recording something is not the same as approving every act described. Scripture contains many accounts of sinful human behaviour that God condemns rather than endorses.
There are also specific occasions where God commanded Israel to go to war as an act of judgment. Those commands were connected to particular historical circumstances and God’s covenant with Israel. They should not be taken as a general permission for Christians today to use violence against people they believe deserve punishment.
Christians are not ancient Israel living under the Old Covenant, and Jesus’ teaching to His followers includes loving enemies, praying for persecutors, and refusing personal vengeance.
Does the Bible Say Christians Can Never Defend Themselves?
The Bible’s teaching against personal vengeance should not be confused with saying that a person must passively remain in every dangerous situation.
Scripture does not command someone to stay in an abusive environment simply because they are a Christian.
There can be a difference between revenge and protection.
If someone is being attacked, seeking safety and getting help is not the same thing as seeking revenge. Creating distance from a dangerous person, contacting emergency services, involving authorities, or taking reasonable steps to protect yourself or another person can be appropriate.
Christians should also be careful about using “self-defence” as an excuse for hatred or revenge.
The heart matters.
Romans 13:1–4 — Government and Justice
The New Testament also recognizes a role for governing authorities in dealing with wrongdoing.
**“Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.
Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation.
For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same:
For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil.”**
— Romans 13:1–4
This passage distinguishes personal revenge from the role of legitimate governing authority.
Christians are not called to personally punish everyone who has done something wrong to them.
Justice and personal vengeance are not the same thing.
What If Someone Has Been Violent Toward Me?
If you have experienced violence, abuse, or intimidation, please don’t read the Bible’s teaching about forgiveness and loving enemies as though it means you must remain accessible to someone who is hurting you.
You can forgive someone and still have boundaries, you can pray for someone and still stay away from them.
You can refuse revenge without refusing justice and you can release your desire to personally punish someone while still seeking appropriate protection and accountability.
God does not ask you to call abuse acceptable.
The Bible takes violence seriously, and God sees those who are being harmed.
What About Violence in Entertainment?
The Bible doesn’t give us a simple rule saying that every depiction of violence in a movie, television show, video game, or book is automatically sinful.
But Scripture does give us principles about what we allow to shape our hearts.
If you find yourself becoming entertained by cruelty, developing a fascination with violence, becoming desensitized to suffering, or filling your mind with things that encourage hatred and sinful behaviour, that’s worth taking seriously.
Paul gives Christians a broader principle:
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
— Philippians 4:8
We should pay attention to what we continually allow into our minds.
Bible Verses About Violence and Peace
The Bible contains many passages that point us away from hatred and toward peace.
Proverbs 15:1
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
Our words can either calm a situation or make it worse.
Proverbs 16:32
“He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”
Self-control is a form of strength.
Matthew 5:9
“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.”
Jesus calls His followers to be peacemakers.
Romans 12:18
“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.”
We should pursue peace where it is possible, while recognizing that we cannot control another person’s choices.
Hebrews 12:14
“Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord.”
Peace is something Christians are called to pursue.
1 Thessalonians 5:15
“See that none render evil for evil unto any man; but ever follow that which is good, both among yourselves, and to all men.”
Christians are not called to repay evil with evil.
Final Thoughts on Bible Verses About Violence
The Bible does not glorify violence.
It tells us about a world deeply damaged by sin, where human beings hurt, oppress, betray, and kill one another. It also shows us a God who cares about justice and who holds people accountable for the evil they commit.
And when we come to Jesus, His teaching about how we respond to wrongdoing is unmistakably challenging.
We are told to love our enemies, pray for those who persecute us, refuse personal revenge, and overcome evil with good.
That doesn’t mean ignoring evil.
It doesn’t mean allowing someone to continue abusing you.
It doesn’t mean refusing to seek justice.
And it certainly doesn’t mean that violence against innocent people doesn’t matter.
It means that as Christians, we don’t allow someone else’s evil to take control of our own hearts.
We can seek safety and justice, we can establish boundaries and we can protect those who are vulnerable. But we don’t have to become people who live for revenge.
Paul gives us a powerful final reminder:
“Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”
— Romans 12:21
That is the kind of response to violence and evil that Scripture calls God’s people toward.
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