
Bible Verses about Unity
September 1, 2024
Bible Verses about Rest
September 1, 2024Friendship is one of those gifts that can make life so much richer. A good friend can laugh with you, pray with you, encourage you when you’re struggling, tell you the truth when you need to hear it, and stand beside you when life gets difficult.
But friendship can also be painful. Maybe you’ve been betrayed by someone you trusted, had a friendship fall apart, or wondered whether the people around you are really good for you. The Bible has a lot to say about friendship, including what a good friend looks like, how friends should treat one another, and why the people we surround ourselves with matter.
Quick Answer: What does the Bible say about friendship?
The Bible presents friendship as something valuable and teaches us to love, encourage, forgive, help, and be truthful with one another. Scripture also warns us to be careful about the company we keep because our friendships can influence the way we live.
One of the clearest verses about friendship is:
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
— Proverbs 17:17
A good friend isn’t only there when everything is going well. True friendship becomes especially meaningful when life becomes difficult.
The Bible also teaches that a good friend can help us grow:
“Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.”
— Proverbs 27:17
Biblical friendship isn’t simply about having someone to spend time with. It is about relationships that can encourage us toward what is good and help us become more like the people God has called us to be.
Proverbs 17:17 — A Friend Loves at All Times
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
— Proverbs 17:17
This is one of the most well-known Bible verses about friendship, and for good reason.
A genuine friend isn’t only present when you’re fun to be around, when you can do something for them, or when your life is going well. Friendship is tested in difficult seasons.
That doesn’t mean a friend has to agree with everything you do or remain in an unhealthy situation. Biblical love can include honesty, boundaries, correction, and difficult conversations. But there should be a genuine desire for the other person’s good.
A good friend doesn’t disappear simply because life has become inconvenient.
Proverbs 27:17 — Friends Should Help Us Grow
“Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend.”
— Proverbs 27:17
Think about what happens when iron sharpens iron. There is friction, but the result is something useful.
Friendship can be like that.
A good friend isn’t someone who simply tells you whatever you want to hear. Sometimes a good friend will lovingly tell you when you’re heading in the wrong direction. They may challenge you, encourage you to do better, or remind you of what you already know to be true.
Of course, correction should be done with love and humility. A friend who constantly criticizes, controls, humiliates, or tears you down is not what Proverbs 27:17 is describing.
Healthy friendship helps both people grow.
Proverbs 18:24 — There Is a Friend Who Sticks Closer Than a Brother
“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”
— Proverbs 18:24
Not every friendship will be equally close, and that’s okay.
You may have people you enjoy spending time with, people you know through work or church, old friends you don’t see very often, and one or two people who know you deeply.
The Bible recognizes that there can be a friendship that is especially close and faithful.
Sometimes the person who stands beside you in your hardest season becomes more like family than someone who shares your last name.
Proverbs 27:9 — The Counsel of a Friend
“Ointment and perfume rejoice the heart: so doth the sweetness of a man’s friend by hearty counsel.”
— Proverbs 27:9
There is something comforting about having a friend whose counsel you can trust.
A good friend doesn’t just listen to you complain. They can help you think clearly when your emotions are running high. They can remind you of God’s truth when you have forgotten it and help you see something from another perspective.
That kind of friendship is precious.
Proverbs 27:6 — Faithful Wounds From a Friend
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
— Proverbs 27:6
This is an important verse because it reminds us that love and agreement are not always the same thing.
Sometimes the most loving thing a friend can do is tell you something difficult.
Maybe you’re making a decision that could hurt you. Maybe you’ve treated someone badly. Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that something is okay when Scripture says otherwise.
A faithful friend may say what you don’t want to hear because they genuinely care about you.
That doesn’t mean every person who criticizes you is a good friend. The wisdom of the Bible must still guide us, and correction should not become cruelty. But we should appreciate friends who care enough to be honest with us.
Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 — Two Are Better Than One
“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.”
— Ecclesiastes 4:9–10
God did not create us to live as though we never need anyone else.
There will be times when you are strong enough to help someone else, and there will be times when you are the one who needs help getting back up.
That’s one of the beautiful things about friendship. We don’t always have to be the strong one.
Sometimes your friend needs your encouragement. Sometimes you need theirs.
1 Thessalonians 5:11 — Encourage One Another
“Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.”
— 1 Thessalonians 5:11
The word “edify” carries the idea of building someone up.
What kind of person are you to your friends?
Do your words leave them encouraged or constantly discouraged? Do you celebrate their good news, pray for them when they’re struggling, and remind them of their value?
Friendship gives us countless opportunities to build other people up.
You don’t always need the perfect advice. Sometimes simply being there, listening, praying, and reminding someone that they aren’t alone can mean more than you realize.
Galatians 6:2 — Bear One Another’s Burdens
“Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.”
— Galatians 6:2
Everyone carries burdens.
Sometimes those burdens are obvious. Other times, you have no idea what someone is dealing with because they look perfectly fine from the outside.
A good friend can help carry some of that weight.
This doesn’t mean taking responsibility for fixing another person’s entire life. It means being willing to come alongside them, listen, pray, help where you reasonably can, and remind them that they don’t have to face everything alone.
Romans 12:10 — Love One Another
“Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.”
— Romans 12:10
Christian friendship should be marked by genuine love.
That means we don’t treat people as though they are valuable only when they are useful to us. We don’t keep friendships based entirely on what we can get from them.
Instead, we learn to care about the other person.
Sometimes that means celebrating their success without becoming jealous. Sometimes it means making time for them when they’re struggling. Sometimes it means putting aside our own preferences for their good.
John 15:12–13 — Jesus Shows Us What Love Looks Like
Jesus gave His followers a powerful command about love:
“This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
— John 15:12–13
Jesus is the greatest example of sacrificial love.
Christian friendship should reflect that same heart. We aren’t called to use people, manipulate them, compete with them, or keep score of who has done more for whom.
We’re called to love.
Jesus’ words also remind us that friendship involves sacrifice. Sometimes loving someone means giving your time, showing patience, forgiving an offense, helping when it is inconvenient, or simply staying beside someone through a difficult season.
Proverbs 13:20 — Choose Your Friends Carefully
The Bible doesn’t only tell us how to be good friends. It also warns us to think carefully about who we allow to influence us.
“He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”
— Proverbs 13:20
The people closest to us can influence our attitudes, decisions, priorities, and behaviour.
That doesn’t mean Christians should avoid everyone who doesn’t believe exactly as they do. Jesus Himself spent time with people who were far from God. But there is a difference between loving people and allowing unhealthy influences to shape your life.
Your closest friendships matter.
If the people around you constantly encourage you toward sin, dishonesty, hatred, gossip, bitterness, or destructive behaviour, it is worth taking that seriously.
1 Corinthians 15:33 — Bad Company Can Influence Us
“Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”
— 1 Corinthians 15:33
We can underestimate how much our environment influences us.
You may begin by thinking, “I would never do that,” but repeated exposure to something can gradually make it seem normal.
This is why Scripture tells us to be wise about our friendships. We should love people without becoming careless about the influence they have on us.
At the same time, this verse isn’t telling us to think we’re better than other people. Christians are called to be a light in the world. We simply need wisdom about which relationships are shaping us most deeply.
Proverbs 12:26 — The Righteous Choose Their Friends Carefully
“The righteous is more excellent than his neighbour: but the way of the wicked seduceth them.”
— Proverbs 12:26
Friendship involves choices.
You don’t have to become close friends with everyone you meet, and you don’t have to keep every friendship forever. There are times when relationships change naturally, and there are also times when a relationship becomes unhealthy enough that distance or boundaries are necessary.
Choosing friends carefully isn’t unloving. It can be wise.
Proverbs 16:28 — Gossip Can Destroy Friendships
“A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.”
— Proverbs 16:28
Few things can damage friendships as quickly as gossip.
Gossip can take something someone said, add assumptions to it, pass it from person to person, and eventually create conflict where there may not have been any.
If you value your friendships, be careful with what you repeat.
Not everything you hear needs to be passed on.
Ephesians 4:29 — Speak Words That Build Others Up
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.”
— Ephesians 4:29
Our words matter.
This is especially true in friendships because friends often know things about us that other people don’t. We know each other’s weaknesses, insecurities, mistakes, and difficult experiences.
That knowledge can be used to hurt someone or to love them.
God calls us to use our words to build people up and give grace.
Colossians 3:13 — Forgive Your Friends
Friendship doesn’t mean that you will never hurt each other.
People misunderstand one another. People say things they regret. Sometimes friends disappoint each other.
Paul writes:
“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”
— Colossians 3:13
Forgiveness is an important part of Christian relationships.
But forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending that harmful behaviour never happened. It doesn’t automatically mean trust is restored, and it doesn’t mean you have to remain in a relationship that is abusive or unsafe.
You can forgive someone while still having wise boundaries.
Job 6:14 — A Friend Should Show Kindness
“To him that is afflicted pity should be shewed from his friend; but he forsaketh the fear of the Almighty.”
— Job 6:14
When someone is hurting, they need compassion.
You don’t always need to understand exactly what your friend is going through before you can be kind to them. Sometimes the best thing you can do is simply acknowledge that they’re hurting and let them know you’re there.
Ruth 1:16–17 — A Beautiful Example of Loyalty
Ruth’s words to Naomi are one of the most beautiful examples of loyalty in Scripture.
**“And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God:
Where thou diest, will I die, and there will I be buried: the LORD do so to me, and more also, if ought but death part thee and me.”**
— Ruth 1:16–17
Ruth’s relationship with Naomi wasn’t based on convenience.
Naomi’s life had become incredibly difficult, and Ruth chose to remain with her.
Their relationship is a beautiful picture of loyalty, commitment, and love during hardship.
What Makes a Good Friend According to the Bible?
When you put these verses together, you begin to see a picture of biblical friendship.
A good friend loves rather than uses people. They encourage rather than constantly tear others down. They can be honest when honesty is needed, but they speak that truth with love. They are willing to help carry burdens, forgive offenses, pray for you, celebrate your blessings, and point you back toward God.
A good friend doesn’t have to be perfect.
None of us are.
What matters is the direction of the relationship and the kind of fruit it produces in your life.
What If I’ve Been Hurt by a Friend?
If you’ve been betrayed by a friend, these verses about friendship can be difficult to read.
You may wonder why someone you trusted could treat you so badly. Maybe you gave everything to the friendship and received very little in return. Maybe someone shared something you told them in confidence, turned other people against you, or simply walked away when you needed them most.
The Bible’s teaching about friendship doesn’t mean every friendship will last forever.
Sometimes people hurt us. Sometimes relationships end. Sometimes boundaries are necessary.
But your experience with one person does not mean that everyone will treat you the same way.
And even when human friendship disappoints you, God does not stop being faithful.
“I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”
— Hebrews 13:5
God is not a replacement for human friendship in the sense that we never need other people. He created us for relationship with Him and with others. But He is the one who remains faithful when human relationships change.
Jesus Is the Friend We Can Trust
There is something especially beautiful about knowing that Jesus Himself speaks about friendship.
Jesus said:
“Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.”
— John 15:15
What an incredible statement.
Jesus doesn’t merely call His followers servants. He speaks of them as friends.
Of course, our relationship with Jesus is not identical to an ordinary human friendship. He is our Lord and Saviour. But He also invites us into a close relationship with Him.
When earthly friendships disappoint you, Jesus remains faithful.
When you feel alone, you can talk to Him.
When you don’t know what to do, you can seek Him.
When your heart is hurting, you can bring that hurt to Him.
Final Thoughts on Good Bible Verses About Friends
The Bible has a lot to teach us about friendship because relationships matter to God.
Good friends are a blessing. They can encourage us, challenge us, help us through difficult seasons, and point us toward what is right. At the same time, Scripture reminds us to choose our closest relationships wisely because the people around us can influence the direction of our lives.
So think about the friendships God has placed in your life.
Are you being the kind of friend you hope to have? Are there people who need encouragement from you? Is there someone you need to forgive? Is there a relationship where you need to establish a healthy boundary? And are the people closest to you helping you grow in wisdom and faith?
You don’t need hundreds of friends.
Sometimes a few genuine, faithful friendships are worth far more than a crowd of people who only know you on the surface.
And above all, remember the words of Proverbs:
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
— Proverbs 17:17
May God help you become a faithful friend, surround you with people who encourage you toward Him, and give you wisdom to know which relationships should be nurtured, which need boundaries, and which may need to be released.
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