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September 3, 2024If you’re struggling with infertility, you may know what it feels like to watch other people have the thing you’ve been praying and hoping for. Pregnancy announcements, baby showers and seeing other families grow can bring up emotions that are difficult to explain to anyone who hasn’t experienced it.
And sometimes, alongside the sadness, there can be difficult questions about God.
“Why hasn’t God answered my prayer?”
“Does God know how much this hurts?”
“Is there something wrong with me?”
“Why does God allow other women to have children while I’m still waiting?”
The Bible doesn’t ignore these questions. In fact, some of the women whose stories are recorded in Scripture experienced infertility themselves. Their stories show us women who were deeply distressed, women who prayed, women who struggled with jealousy and disappointment, and women who continued bringing their pain to God.
But their stories also need to be handled carefully. The Bible records several women who eventually conceived, but that does not mean every person experiencing infertility will eventually become pregnant. Scripture doesn’t give us a promise that every prayer for a child will be answered in the way we hope.
What it does show us is that God sees people in their deepest pain, and infertility does not mean that you have been forgotten by Him.
Quick Answer: What Does the Bible Say About Infertility?
The Bible speaks about infertility through the stories of women such as Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Hannah and Elizabeth. Some of these women eventually had children after years of waiting, while their stories show the emotional pain and longing they experienced along the way.
The Bible does not teach that infertility is necessarily punishment for sin, nor does it tell us that everyone who prays faithfully for a baby will receive one.
Instead, these stories show us that God hears prayer, cares about our suffering and is able to do what is impossible. They also remind us that God’s purposes are bigger than our ability to understand everything He is doing.
If you’re experiencing infertility, you are allowed to grieve.
You are allowed to pray.
You are allowed to feel disappointed.
And you can bring all of those feelings honestly before God.
The Bible Doesn’t Hide the Pain of Infertility
One of the things I find comforting about the Bible is that it doesn’t pretend that God’s people never struggle.
The women who experienced infertility weren’t portrayed as emotionless people who simply smiled, prayed once and moved on.
Rachel’s pain was intense.
Hannah wept and struggled deeply.
Sarah tried to find another way to have a child.
Rebekah was unable to conceive for a time.
Elizabeth lived for many years without children and carried the shame that could come with being childless in her culture.
These stories remind us that infertility can be deeply painful, and the Bible doesn’t ask us to pretend otherwise.
Rachel Longed Desperately for a Child
Rachel’s story is one of the clearest examples of the emotional pain of infertility.
Rachel had married Jacob, but she was unable to have children while her sister Leah was having children.
Genesis 30:1–2 (KJV)
“And when Rachel saw that she bare Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister; and said unto Jacob, Give me children, or else I die.
And Jacob’s anger was kindled against Rachel: and he said, Am I in God’s stead, who hath withheld from thee the fruit of the womb?”
Rachel’s words show just how deeply she was hurting.
She wasn’t simply disappointed, she was devastated.
She also struggled when she saw her sister having children while she could not.
That can be one of the hardest parts of infertility. You can genuinely love someone else and still find their pregnancy announcement painful because it reminds you of what you desperately want.
Rachel’s story gives us permission to acknowledge that those emotions can exist.
We don’t have to pretend they aren’t there.
Instead, we can bring them honestly before God and ask Him to help us with the jealousy, sadness and grief that can come with them.
Hannah Prayed Through Her Pain
Hannah’s story is perhaps one of the most well-known stories of infertility in the Bible.
Hannah had no children, while another woman in her husband’s household did. She was also being provoked and mocked because of her situation.
Eventually, Hannah brought her grief directly to God.
1 Samuel 1:10–11 (KJV)
“And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the LORD, and wept sore.
And she vowed a vow, and said, O LORD of hosts, if thou wilt indeed look on the affliction of thine handmaid, and remember me, and not forget thine handmaid, but wilt give unto thine handmaid a man child, then I will give him unto the LORD all the days of his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head.”
I think there is something very beautiful about the honesty of Hannah’s prayer.
She didn’t hide her pain from God, she wept, she pleaded and she told God what she desperately wanted.
And she trusted Him enough to bring that desire directly to Him.
If you’re struggling with infertility, you don’t have to pray perfectly.
You don’t have to use the right words, you can cry while you pray, you can tell God that you’re disappointed or angry and you can tell Him that you don’t understand.
God already knows what is in your heart.
Hannah Was Seen by God
Hannah’s story also reminds us that being in a season of waiting doesn’t mean God doesn’t see you.
After Hannah prayed, Eli the priest spoke to her:
1 Samuel 1:17–18 (KJV)
“Then Eli answered and said, Go in peace: and the God of Israel grant thee thy petition that thou hast asked of him.
And she said, Let thine handmaid find grace in thy sight. So the woman went her way, and did eat, and her countenance was no more sad.”
Hannah didn’t yet have the answer she was hoping for when she left.
That is important.
Her circumstances hadn’t immediately changed.
But something changed inside her after she had brought her pain to God.
She went away with peace.
Later, Hannah conceived and gave birth to Samuel. But her story should not be used to tell every woman experiencing infertility, “Just pray like Hannah and you’ll have a baby.”
The Bible doesn’t make that promise.
Hannah’s story is her story.
What we can learn from it is that God welcomes our honest prayers, even when we are hurting deeply.
Sarah Waited a Very Long Time
Sarah’s story is another well-known example.
God had promised Abraham that he would become the father of many nations, but Sarah remained childless for many years.
Genesis tells us:
Genesis 11:30 (KJV)
“But Sarai was barren; she had no child.”
Eventually, God fulfilled His promise to Abraham and Sarah.
Genesis 21:1–2 (KJV)
“And the LORD visited Sarah as he had said, and the LORD did unto Sarah as he had spoken.
For Sarah conceived, and bare Abraham a son in his old age, at the set time of which God had spoken to him.”
Sarah’s story shows us that God is able to do things that seem impossible to us.
But it is also important to understand the context.
God had specifically promised Abraham that he would have a son through whom His covenant promise would continue. Sarah’s pregnancy was part of that particular promise and God’s redemptive plan.
So we shouldn’t take Sarah’s story as a guarantee that every person who is infertile will eventually conceive.
It shows us God’s power and faithfulness in Sarah’s particular story.
Rebekah’s Husband Prayed for Her
Rebekah also experienced a period of infertility.
Isaac prayed for his wife, and God answered his prayer.
Genesis 25:21 (KJV)
“And Isaac intreated the LORD for his wife, because she was barren: and the LORD was intreated of him, and Rebekah his wife conceived.”
This verse shows something important about prayer.
Isaac didn’t treat Rebekah’s inability to conceive as something that made her less valuable.
Instead, he prayed for her.
Their story also reminds us that infertility can affect a marriage, and spouses can support one another by bringing their hopes, fears and grief to God together.
Elizabeth Also Experienced Infertility
In the New Testament, we meet Elizabeth, the wife of Zacharias.
Luke tells us:
Luke 1:6–7 (KJV)
“And they were both righteous before God, walking in all the commandments and ordinances of the Lord blameless.
And they had no child, because that Elisabeth was barren, and they both were now well stricken in years.”
This passage is especially important because it directly challenges the idea that infertility automatically means someone has done something wrong.
Luke describes Zacharias and Elizabeth as “righteous before God” and says they were walking faithfully before Him.
Yet they had no child.
So if you’ve ever wondered whether infertility means God is punishing you for some hidden sin, Elizabeth’s story gives us a very important biblical answer.
We cannot automatically assume that someone’s infertility is punishment from God.
Sometimes suffering and unanswered prayers happen in ways we don’t understand.
God Heard Elizabeth’s Prayer
Eventually, Elizabeth conceived John the Baptist.
When the angel Gabriel announced this to Zacharias, he said:
Luke 1:13 (KJV)
“But the angel said unto him, Fear not, Zacharias: for thy prayer is heard; and thy wife Elisabeth shall bear thee a son, and thou shalt call his name John.”
Elizabeth later said:
Luke 1:24–25 (KJV)
“And after those days his wife Elisabeth conceived, and hid herself five months, saying,
Thus hath the Lord dealt with me in the days wherein he looked on me, to take away my reproach among men.”
Elizabeth’s pregnancy was part of God’s particular plan for John, who would prepare the way for Jesus.
Again, this is not a promise that every woman who has prayed for a child will eventually become pregnant.
But it does show us something beautiful about God.
He had not forgotten Elizabeth, He knew her story and He knew how long she had waited.
And He was working through circumstances she could not yet see.
Infertility Is Not Proof That God Has Rejected You
This is something I really want to emphasise.
If you’re experiencing infertility, please don’t automatically assume that God is punishing you.
The Bible doesn’t support that conclusion.
Elizabeth and Zacharias were described as righteous before God, yet they had no children.
Job suffered tremendously without his suffering being a simple punishment for some secret sin.
And throughout Scripture, God’s people sometimes experienced painful circumstances that they didn’t understand.
We need to be careful about telling someone, “God hasn’t given you a baby because you must have done something wrong.”
That can add unnecessary guilt to an already painful situation.
Infertility can have many physical and medical causes, and Scripture does not tell us that every instance of infertility has a specific spiritual cause.
You Can Bring Your Desire for a Child to God
If you desperately want a child, you don’t need to hide that desire from God.
You can pray about it, you can ask God for a child.
Ask Him for wisdom about medical treatment and other options.
You can ask Him to help you through the waiting.
And you can ask Him to comfort you when another month passes without the answer you were hoping for.
The Bible says:
Philippians 4:6–7 (KJV)
“Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Notice that Paul says to make “your requests” known to God.
God already knows what you need, but He still invites you to bring your requests to Him.
You don’t have to be embarrassed about wanting to be a mother.
You don’t have to feel guilty because you desperately want something that another person already has.
Bring it to God.
What If God Doesn’t Answer the Way I Want?
This is one of the hardest parts of faith.
We can pray with everything we have and still not receive the answer we hoped for.
The Bible gives us examples of people who prayed for different things and experienced different answers. Sometimes God says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes we wait without understanding what He is doing.
And when it comes to infertility, we need to be particularly careful not to make promises God hasn’t made.
The stories of Sarah, Hannah, Rachel and Elizabeth are beautiful, but they are not guarantees that every woman who experiences infertility will eventually have a biological child.
If that doesn’t happen, it does not mean that God didn’t hear your prayers.
It does not mean that you weren’t faithful enough.
It does not mean you didn’t pray hard enough.
And it does not mean that you are less loved by God.
Your value isn’t determined by whether you become a mother.
Your Worth Is Not Determined by Motherhood
Our culture can sometimes make motherhood seem as though it is the thing that gives a woman her worth.
But Scripture doesn’t teach that.
Your identity comes from God.
If you are married, you are more than a wife, if you are a mother, you are more than a mother and if you are not a mother, you are not somehow incomplete as a person.
Your worth comes from being created by God and, for those who belong to Christ, from being united with Him.
This doesn’t make the desire for a child disappear.
It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t grieve, it simply means that infertility does not get to decide what you are worth.
It Is Okay to Grieve
You don’t have to force yourself to be happy when you’re hurting.
Infertility can involve a very real sense of loss, even when there has not been a pregnancy or child to grieve in the traditional sense. You may be grieving the future you imagined, the family you expected to have, or the child you’ve prayed for year after year.
God doesn’t ask you to pretend that doesn’t hurt.
Psalm 34:18 says:
Psalm 34:18 (KJV)
“The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.”
God draws near to people who are hurting.
So if today is one of those days when you can’t stop crying, you can bring those tears to Him.
If you’re struggling to be around pregnant women or babies because it hurts too much right now, be honest with God about that too.
You don’t have to feel ashamed of your grief.
You Can Still Trust God While You Wait
Waiting is hard because we don’t know how the story will end.
Hannah didn’t know what would happen when she prayed.
Sarah waited for years.
Elizabeth waited into old age.
Their stories remind us that God’s timing can be very different from ours.
But trusting God doesn’t mean pretending that waiting isn’t painful.
You can have faith and still cry, can trust God and still have questions and you can love God and still wish He would change your circumstances.
Faith isn’t pretending that everything is okay.
Faith is continuing to bring your life to God even when you don’t understand what He’s doing.
Bible Verses About Infertility
Here are some of the main passages to read if you’re studying infertility and longing for children in the Bible.
Genesis 21:1–2 — Sarah
“And the LORD visited Sarah as he had said, and the LORD did unto Sarah as he had spoken.
For Sarah conceived, and bare Abraham a son in his old age, at the set time of which God had spoken to him.”Psalm 113:9
“He maketh the barren woman to keep house, and to be a joyful mother of children. Praise ye the LORD.”
Genesis 25:21 — Rebekah
“And Isaac intreated the LORD for his wife, because she was barren: and the LORD was intreated of him, and Rebekah his wife conceived.”
1 Samuel 1:10–11 — Hannah
“And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the LORD, and wept sore.
And she vowed a vow, and said, O LORD of hosts, if thou wilt indeed look on the affliction of thine handmaid, and remember me, and not forget thine handmaid, but wilt give unto thine handmaid a man child, then I will give him unto the LORD all the days of his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head.”
Genesis 30:1 — Rachel
“And when Rachel saw that she bare Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister; and said unto Jacob, Give me children, or else I die.”
Luke 1:13 — Elizabeth
“But the angel said unto him, Fear not, Zacharias: for thy prayer is heard; and thy wife Elisabeth shall bear thee a son, and thou shalt call his name John.”
Genesis 30:22 — Rachel
“And God remembered Rachel, and God hearkened to her, and opened her womb.”
Luke 1:7 — Elizabeth
“And they had no child, because that Elisabeth was barren, and they both were now well stricken in years.”
What Can We Learn From the Bible’s Stories of Infertility?
The Bible doesn’t give us a simple answer to every question about infertility.
It doesn’t tell us why every particular woman or couple is unable to conceive. It doesn’t say that infertility is always caused by God, and it certainly doesn’t teach that infertility automatically means someone has sinned.
What it does give us are real stories of people who experienced deep longing and disappointment.
Rachel knew the pain of watching her sister have children.
Hannah knew what it was like to weep before God because she desperately wanted a child.
Sarah waited for years for God’s promise to be fulfilled.
Rebekah’s husband prayed for her.
Elizabeth lived for many years without children despite being described as righteous before God.
Their stories show us that God sees people in their waiting.
But they also remind us not to turn someone else’s miracle into a promise God hasn’t made to us.
If you’re praying for a baby, keep bringing that desire to God. Seek appropriate medical care and support when you need it. Allow yourself to grieve. And don’t let anyone convince you that your infertility means God has rejected you.
You are not forgotten.
You are not less valuable.
And you are not less loved by God because you haven’t received the answer you’ve been praying for.
Sometimes we don’t understand why God allows us to walk through certain seasons. We may never have every answer we want.
But you can still bring your broken heart to Him.
Psalm 34:18 (KJV)
“The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.”
If you’re walking through infertility right now, I pray you remember that you don’t have to walk through the pain alone. God sees you, He knows your heart, and you can bring your deepest hopes and deepest disappointments to Him.
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