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September 3, 2024Valentine’s Day is often associated with romantic love, flowers, chocolates, cards, and spending time with someone special. But love is much bigger than romance, and the Bible has a lot to say about what genuine love actually looks like.
Whether you’re married, dating, single, grieving a relationship, celebrating with friends, or simply wanting to focus on God’s love, Valentine’s Day can be a good opportunity to think about what Scripture teaches us about loving others.
The Bible doesn’t tell Christians to celebrate Valentine’s Day, and it doesn’t give us a specific Valentine’s Day tradition to follow. But it gives us plenty of wisdom about love, relationships, marriage, friendship, kindness, and the love God has for us.
Quick Answer
The Bible does not specifically mention Valentine’s Day, but it has a great deal to say about love. Scripture teaches that love is patient, kind, selfless, faithful, truthful, and willing to sacrifice for others.
For Christians, Valentine’s Day can be an opportunity to remember that love isn’t simply about romantic feelings. God’s love is at the centre of the Christian faith, and Jesus calls us to love God and love other people.
One of the most well-known passages about love is 1 Corinthians 13:
1 Corinthians 13:4–7
“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.”
This is a beautiful description of the kind of love God wants us to show.
Is Valentine’s Day in the Bible?
No, Valentine’s Day isn’t mentioned in the Bible.
The Bible doesn’t command Christians to celebrate it, but it also doesn’t require Christians to avoid every cultural occasion that isn’t found in Scripture.
What matters is how we choose to participate.
If Valentine’s Day becomes an opportunity to show love, appreciate someone, encourage a friend, spend time with family, or thank God for the people He has placed in our lives, there can be something meaningful about that.
At the same time, Christians don’t need Valentine’s Day to prove their love to one another. Love should be part of our everyday lives.
Jesus didn’t tell us to love people only on a particular day of the year.
God Is the Source of Love
When we talk about love, we should start with God.
1 John 4:7–8
“Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.”
God’s love isn’t simply one of His characteristics among many. Scripture tells us that God is love.
That doesn’t mean everything people call “love” is automatically from God. The Bible also gives us boundaries around love and teaches us that genuine love rejoices in truth rather than celebrating what is sinful.
But if we want to understand what real love looks like, we need to look at God.
God Loved Us First
Before we ever loved God, He loved us.
1 John 4:19
“We love him, because he first loved us.”
That changes the way we think about love.
Christian love isn’t supposed to begin with trying to make ourselves worthy of being loved. God’s love came first.
He loved us while we were sinners and sent His Son for us.
Romans 5:8
“But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”
The cross is the greatest demonstration of God’s love.
Jesus didn’t simply tell us that God loves us. He gave His life for us.
Jesus Showed Us What Love Looks Like
Jesus taught His followers to love others in a way that goes far beyond romantic feelings.
John 13:34–35
“A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.
By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.”
Jesus gave His followers a standard for love: “as I have loved you.”
That’s a much deeper challenge than simply saying, “I love you.”
Christian love should be seen in the way we treat people, the way we speak to them, the way we forgive, the way we serve, and the way we care about their wellbeing.
Love Is More Than a Feeling
Valentine’s Day can sometimes make love seem like a feeling that appears when you meet the right person.
But biblical love is much deeper than that.
1 Corinthians 13:4–5
“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil.”
Notice how much of this description has to do with behaviour.
Love is patient.
Love is kind.
Love isn’t selfish.
Love doesn’t constantly keep score of what someone else has done wrong.
Love isn’t about getting everything you want.
This is important because feelings can change. Relationships go through difficult seasons. People disappoint each other. There will be days when you don’t feel particularly romantic.
Biblical love gives us something deeper to build on than emotion alone.
Love Should Be Patient and Kind
Two of the first characteristics Paul gives us are patience and kindness.
1 Corinthians 13:4
“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up.”
Patience matters because people are imperfect.
We will misunderstand each other. We will make mistakes. We will have bad days. We will sometimes say things we wish we hadn’t said.
Kindness matters too.
You can tell someone you love them while continually speaking harshly to them. You can buy someone an expensive gift and still treat them without respect.
Biblical love should affect the way we actually treat people.
Love Is Not Selfish
Paul also says that love “seeketh not her own.”
That doesn’t mean you can never have needs, boundaries, preferences, or desires. Healthy relationships require honesty and mutual care.
It means love isn’t centred entirely around getting what we want.
Love asks, “How can I care for this person?” rather than constantly asking, “What am I getting from this relationship?”
That kind of selflessness is something every relationship needs.
Love Rejoices in the Truth
True love and truth belong together.
1 Corinthians 13:6
“Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth.”
Love doesn’t mean approving everything someone does.
Sometimes loving someone means telling them the truth, encouraging them to make a better choice, or refusing to participate in something harmful.
And loving someone doesn’t mean ignoring abuse, accepting mistreatment, or remaining in an unsafe situation.
The Bible’s teaching about love should never be used to pressure someone into staying where they are being harmed.
Love Forgives, But Forgiveness Has Boundaries
The Bible teaches Christians to forgive.
Colossians 3:13–14
“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.”
Forgiveness is an important part of love, but forgiveness doesn’t mean pretending something never happened.
It doesn’t automatically restore trust, remove consequences, or require you to remain close to someone who continues to hurt you.
You can forgive someone while still having healthy boundaries.
Love doesn’t require you to ignore wisdom.
Love Your Spouse Well
For married couples, Valentine’s Day can be a lovely reminder to appreciate one another, but marriage is meant to involve love throughout the entire year.
Ephesians 5:25
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”
The standard Paul gives husbands is incredibly high.
Christ loved the church sacrificially.
Christian marriage isn’t supposed to be built entirely around romance, attraction, or getting your own needs met. It involves serving, sacrifice, faithfulness, patience, forgiveness, and putting love into action.
Love Your Wife and Husband Through Difficult Seasons
Marriage isn’t always easy.
There can be seasons of stress, financial pressure, parenting difficulties, sickness, grief, disagreement, or simply feeling disconnected from one another.
That doesn’t mean love has disappeared.
Sometimes love looks very ordinary.
It can be making dinner when your spouse is exhausted, listening when they’ve had a difficult day, keeping a promise, apologising when you’re wrong, praying together, or choosing to be patient when you could easily become angry.
Those ordinary things matter.
Love Your Friends and Family
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about romantic relationships.
Friendship is valuable too.
Proverbs 17:17
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
Some of the most important people in our lives aren’t romantic partners.
They are friends who stayed when life became difficult. Family members who supported us. People who prayed for us, encouraged us, listened to us, or simply showed up when we needed someone.
Valentine’s Day can be a good opportunity to remind those people that they’re loved and appreciated too.
Jesus Calls Us to Love Our Neighbour
Jesus didn’t limit love to people we naturally like.
Mark 12:30–31
“And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength:
This is the first commandment.
And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.”
Loving God and loving others are at the heart of Christian living.
That means love should extend beyond our romantic relationships.
It should influence how we treat our neighbours, coworkers, friends, family members, strangers, and even people we find difficult to get along with.
What About Being Single on Valentine’s Day?
Valentine’s Day can be difficult if you’re single.
You may look around and feel like everyone else has someone except you. Social media can make this even harder because you’re constantly seeing couples celebrating their relationships.
But being single doesn’t mean you’re less valuable, less loved, or somehow incomplete.
Your worth doesn’t come from having a romantic partner.
God’s love for you isn’t dependent on whether someone has chosen you romantically.
Psalm 139:13–14
“For thou hast possessed my reins: thou hast covered me in my mother’s womb.
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.”
You don’t need another person to give you value.
You already have value because you were created by God and made in His image.
Valentine’s Day Can Be About More Than Romance
If you’re single, don’t feel as though Valentine’s Day has to be a reminder of what you don’t have.
You can use the day to appreciate the people you do have.
Spend time with family. Call a friend. Encourage someone who is having a difficult time. Show kindness to someone who may be feeling lonely.
You can also simply spend time with God.
There is nothing spiritually inferior about being single, and marriage isn’t the only way a person can live a meaningful and fruitful Christian life.
Love Others When They Feel Lonely
There are many people who find Valentine’s Day particularly difficult.
Some have lost a spouse. Others are going through divorce. Some have never been in a relationship. Others are recovering from heartbreak or experiencing a relationship that is deeply painful.
So while celebrating your own relationship, remember the people around you who may be struggling.
A simple message can mean a lot.
Let someone know you’re thinking of them. Invite someone for coffee. Check on a friend who has been having a difficult time.
Sometimes the most meaningful expression of love costs very little.
The Greatest Love Is Sacrificial
Jesus gave us one of the clearest descriptions of sacrificial love.
John 15:13
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
Jesus was ultimately pointing toward the kind of sacrificial love He Himself would demonstrate.
The cross shows us that genuine love is willing to give.
It doesn’t mean we should allow people to continually take advantage of us. It means that love isn’t fundamentally about what we can get.
Jesus gave.
He served.
He sacrificed.
And He calls His followers to love others in a similar spirit.
God’s Love Is Greater Than Romantic Love
Romantic love can be wonderful, but it isn’t the highest form of love.
Relationships can change. People can leave. Marriages can end. Loved ones can die. Circumstances can change.
But God’s love is not dependent on any of those things.
Romans 8:38–39
“For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
That is the kind of love we can build our lives upon.
Bible Verses About Love for Valentine’s Day
If you’re looking for Bible verses to write in a Valentine’s Day card, use in a message, share with someone you love, or simply meditate on, these are some beautiful passages to read.
1 Corinthians 13:4–7
“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.”
1 John 4:7–8
“Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.
He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.”
1 John 4:19
“We love him, because he first loved us.”
John 15:13
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.”
Proverbs 17:17
“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
Colossians 3:14
“And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.”
Ephesians 5:25
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.”
Romans 12:10
“Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another.”
1 Peter 4:8
“And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.”
Proverbs 10:12
“Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.”
What Is the Most Important Kind of Love?
The Bible points us beyond romantic love toward something much greater.
Love for God comes first.
Jesus said:
“And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength.”
Then He immediately connected that command with loving our neighbour.
When our relationship with God is at the centre of our lives, it changes how we understand every other relationship.
We don’t have to look to another person to give us the identity, worth, security, or purpose that ultimately belongs to God.
A Final Thought About Valentine’s Day
Whether you’re spending Valentine’s Day with your husband or wife, dating someone, surrounded by friends and family, or spending the day on your own, remember that this day doesn’t determine how loved you are.
You are loved by God.
And because God has loved us, we are called to love others.
That love should be more than words or feelings. It should show itself through patience, kindness, forgiveness, truth, generosity, sacrifice, and the way we treat people when nobody is watching.
So if you celebrate Valentine’s Day, let it be more than flowers and chocolates.
Use it as an opportunity to think about what love really means.
Thank God for the people He has placed in your life. Tell someone you love them. Encourage somebody who is lonely. Appreciate your spouse, your family, or your friends.
And most importantly, remember the greatest demonstration of love the world has ever known:
Jesus Christ gave His life for us.
“We love him, because he first loved us.”
— 1 John 4:19
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